Short blog from our Friday free wellbeing classes in Leicester.
“Despite being surrounded by people, I’ve never felt so alone.”
Sound familiar? It was a line that came up in our Friday session, and it set the tone for a powerful, unexpected journey.
We started with a simple check-in: How are you doing? And somehow, what unfolded was an honest, raw exploration into something we all experience — isolation.
What Does Isolation Mean, Really?
Not everyone defines isolation the same way.
For some, it’s about being physically alone. For others, it’s emotional — being around people but not felt, not heard. Some described feeling isolated at work, feeling different from colleagues, even in helping professions.
Others spoke of feeling isolated within their own families — surrounded by loved ones, but without true connection.
And then someone said something that landed deeply:
“Sometimes, I feel isolated from myself.”
That hit. And it opened the door to something deeper.
Isolation vs. Solitude: One Hurts, One Heals
We started distinguishing between isolation and solitude.
Solitude is chosen. It’s a quiet sanctuary, where you get to meet yourself without distractions.
Isolation, on the other hand, often happens when you want connection but can’t find it. It may come from unmet expectations, social conditioning, or not feeling seen.
Even material wealth came into the conversation.
Having “everything” but feeling disconnected.
No depth. No tribe. No one who truly understands.
Triggers: Upbringing, Pressure, and Not Fitting In
We unpacked where these feelings might stem from.
Upbringing came up — being raised in families where no one voiced their truth, where silence was the norm. Cultural pressure to please. Career paths chosen to tick boxes, not to fulfil the soul.
Someone bravely shared:
“I smoked in college just to fit in. I hated it. But I needed to belong.”
That’s when it became clear — we often compromise our truth just to avoid the sting of isolation.
Emotions We Inherit: When Isolation Isn’t Even Yours
A moment that changed the energy in the room was during a reflection on family constellations.
A powerful share came up about carrying inherited pain — feeling responsible for family members, out of loyalty, duty, guilt.
“Why am I holding pain that’s not even mine?”
We realised that sometimes, isolation isn’t about our current situation — it’s the echo of a generational silence we’ve never questioned.
Healing the Disconnection: From Survival to Service
So how do we move forward?
We spoke of devotion. Being in service. Not to be praised, but because giving freely softens the armour around the heart.
Being in service brings presence. It draws us out of “me” and into “we.”
Whether it’s helping a stranger or simply listening without fixing — connection often happens when we’re not looking for it.
And energy-wise?
When we’re stuck in survival (root chakra), everything feels like a reaction. Tight belly. Tense shoulders. That gut feeling of disconnect.
But when breath flows and energy rises — we feel lighter, clearer. The isolation loosens.
Tantra, Trauma & Truth
We ended the session with a reminder from the scriptures:
“Chasing temporary pleasure leads to deeper isolation.”
True connection starts from within.
From honesty, not performance.
From slowing down enough to feel — without running from discomfort.
Final Reflection
If you’ve ever felt disconnected — from people, from purpose, from your own body — know this:
You’re not broken.
You’re not alone.
And sometimes, going into the discomfort leads to the very breakthrough you’ve been seeking.
Let this space continue to be that safe container — to speak, to feel, to reconnect.
Love and light,
Hari xox